Does this sound like you or your loved one?

  • Your emotions go from 0 to 100 quickly and take a while to settle.
  • Your relationships feel confusing and come with a lot of ups and downs.
  • You try on different selves and feel unsure who you are.
  • You act in the moment in ways you later wish you hadn't - sometimes in ways that put yourself or others at risk.
  • You worry about being “too much,” "too sensitive," or misunderstood.
  • You tell yourself and others you'll do better and try harder to change, though the truth is you don't know how. 

Some people find that their emotional experiences and relationship patterns feel especially intense, confusing, or difficult to manage. Relationships may feel unstable or painful, emotions may shift quickly, and it can be hard to maintain a consistent sense of self.

You might notice strong fears of abandonment, rapid shifts in how you feel about yourself or others, or relationships that cycle between closeness and conflict. At times, emotions may feel overwhelming or difficult to regulate, leading to impulsive behaviors or attempts to cope with distress in ways you later regret. 

Some people who experience these patterns may meet criteria for borderline personality disorder (BPD). While the label can sound discouraging, the disorder is actually very treatable. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is the leading 

dialectical behavior therapy
for lasting emotional balance

treatment for BPD. It helps you build awareness of thoughts, emotions, and behavioral patterns, while also building concrete skills. Together, these ingredients help you understand and regulate your emotions, navigate relationships, and reduce behaviors that create suffering.

Over time, many people find that patterns which once felt fixed begin to shift. Therapy can help create space for a stronger sense of identity, more manageable emotional experiences, and relationships that feel more stable and fulfilling.




I specialize in helping adults, couples, and teens understand and change the emotional patterns that shape their relationships — whether they show up as overthinking, pulling away, people pleasing, feeling disconnected, or as more intense emotional swings and relationship instability. 

If you’re looking for therapy for BPD or for DBT-informed treatment in California or New York, working with a therapist who specializes in helping people with intense emotional experiences, impulsive behaviors, and complex relationship patterns can make a meaningful difference. Feel free to submit an inquiry below if you're interested in a consultation call.

Some people find that their emotional experiences and relationship patterns feel especially intense, confusing, or difficult to manage. Relationships may feel unstable or painful, emotions may shift quickly, and it can be hard to maintain a consistent sense of self.

You might notice strong fears of abandonment, rapid shifts in how you feel about yourself or others, or relationships that cycle between closeness and conflict. At times, emotions may feel overwhelming or difficult to regulate, leading to impulsive behaviors or attempts to cope with distress in ways you later regret. 

Some people who experience these patterns may meet criteria for borderline personality disorder (BPD). While the label can sound discouraging, BPD is actually very treatable.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is the leading treatment for BPD. It helps you build awareness of thoughts, emotions, and behavioral patterns, while also building concrete skills. Together, these ingredients help you understand and regulate your emotions, navigate relationships, and reduce behaviors that create suffering.

Over time, many people find that patterns which once felt fixed begin to shift. Therapy can help create space for a stronger sense of identity, more manageable emotional experiences, and relationships that feel more stable and fulfilling.

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